Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad!My folks could have spent thier 37th wedding anniversary at the coast, or at some remote romantic destination, or anywhere else besides podunk washington with us. I'm so glad that they decided to come stay with us, and also to bring Maggie, their yellow lab. We had such a great time! They were such a help to us getting even more settled into our new home. My parents have always been a model for me in finding a partner that best suites me. I will always admire and respect their relationship to each other, to my brother, my husband and I.
My parents met when they were just turning about 20, in Baltimore Maryland, where Dad was stationed in the Army. Dad had returned from serving in the Vietnam War. They met in a "Gino's" fast food joint parking lot while partying with their friends. My Dad asked to bum a smoke off my Mom who was in a car next to his. After she gave him one, he made his move and came over to her car, and sat right next to her. From there, their destinies unraveled. They dated and were engaged and married by their six month anniversary. Always having a good time, always goofing around. My mom then moved from Baltimore Maryland, to Portland Oregon to be with, and marry simply in a courthouse, my Dad.
They decided to start a family right away. It took them five years of trying, but they got what they asked for with the arrival of my brother. One exact year after my brother was born, I came along. After so many years, they've continued to impress me. With raising my brother and I, my Dad trucking for 11 years, my Mom staying at home raising us, it wasn't easy. There could have been times during the years that they raised us that Mom could have complained about raising us alone since Dad was mainly home on the weekends. Well, except for summertime when my brother John and I would go on "runs" with him for extended periods. But it never felt like that she was doing it alone. It was simply that they had built the respect between them that Dad raised us by making sure we had all that we needed growing up, (and then some) and making sure Mom could stay home to ensure their ideals were passed along to us on a daily basis. We stayed home with Dad when he was home and we begged to go with him when he left our driveway each week. We spoke to him everyday and we never felt like we didn't have a Dad.
They've survived moving from coast to coast once, twice, thrice(final move during my senior year in high school); changing jobs; losing my grandfather (my mom's Dad); losing my grandmother (my Dad's Mom); dealing with melanoma with my Dad; and subsequent chemotherapy treatments and surgeries; college educations for my brother and I, and our careers afterward; forming a life without their children at home and finally enjoying it.
I remember one Valentines Day, I asked my Dad what it was about my Mom that got his attention. His answer was quick, so quick and sweet it caught me offguard and brought tears to my eyes. He said "Oh, her 'eyes', she has movie star eyes." His look was bright and sparkling as he spoke about her, in front of her. My mom said, "oh, I never knew that!" She got teary-eyed too. She says she used to use eyeliner that would extend out passed her eyelashes like they did back then. She had forgotten about that. I think my Mom always feels adored by my Dad, and likewise, he feels adored by her. They still remember everything about thier honeymoon and brag about it if you give them the chance, but please make sure you are over 18 before you ask. I'm not sure they can bridle their passion, nor do they make attempts to.
Their relationship is amazing. They still hold hands. They still make-out. They still giggle and flirt with one another. They still excite one another. They are romantic and playful. They've never strayed, and they've always remained sweet to each other. They always hold high esteem of one another, even when the other isn't around, even when it's not easy.
Congratulations Mom and Dad for pushing through all these years. I've learned a lot from both of you:
-Marriage is for the long haul. If you don't love him, don't marry him. If you love him, marry him. Once you marry him, don't stop loving him.
-We're going to love, honor and respect each other, even when it's not easy.
Even when it's not easy.
Even when it's not easy.
-When the times get tough between Jordan and I, we're going to build something together. I remember my folks building decks, garages, gardens, fences, spare rooms, and our pool. It focuses us on a separate task, and we'll have to work
together to complete it. Seeing those tasks complete were monuments of the teamwork of my parents.
-Keep our "yes's" to one another, always more than a few counts above our "no's" to one another.
-Reach for one another first.
I already feel so adored by Jordan, so I made a fantastic start. We are newlyweds, so all of the hand holding, and "etc." is coming easy. We'll hold onto it. If we don't, just walk in front of us, and remind us how.
There are so many more lessons I've learned and continue to learn, but I'll keep this entry shorter than it definitly could be. So, I'll post our home repairs details at a later date, I felt it too important to let this anniversary go by without adequate mention.
CONGRATULATIONS!

A short story.
Family friends, the Beckwiths, recently celebrated their 60th Anniversary. They are both 80 years old. They sent pictures of their smiling faces. Not too shabby, no? Best thing was, the picture was taken while parasailing in Hawaii together in the same sling, while holding a sign signifying their wedding date. Fantastic model! They are a couple that I definitly admire. Their love for each other is completely evident and admirable as well. I can't wait to have a similar experience, that at 80, I am still beaming about how "cute" I still think my husband is and how I just never can capture enough of him around me.